Beware: Men Buying Wives Gifts

Here we go again! This holiday what do you WANT for Christmas? Yes, want, not need. Men are often confused by the meaning of these two words, especially when it comes to buying their wives gifts. So, this is for any man reading this:

Want: is a verb (used with object) and it means to feel a desire for; wish for: “Oh, I want a new ring.” or “Those are such pretty flowers, I want some.”

In other words, it’s a luxury, not in the sense that it’s expensive, but in the sense that it’s something you can live without. An extra, something that would make me feel joy and happiness.

Need: is a verb (used with object) it means to have need of; require: “I need money to buy food.” or “I need a blender to make your favorite soup.”

Here, we have the difference. You will die if you can’t buy food to eat, so you need money to get it. Also, you can’t clean carpet well without a good vacuum cleaner, so you need one in order to get up that dirt, otherwise the carpet will be dirty and full of “stuff”.

When a woman tells you she needs such and such a thing, for example, household appliances, it doesn’t necessarily mean she wants it, it’s just that it would make life at home easier for all who live there.

BUT! When she says she wants something (and most women don’t come right out and say ‘want’, you have to watch for signals, key words, long stares), that means she would like to own that certain item for her own pleasure. Trust me, a vacuum cleaner, blender or dishwasher do not give pleasure. A diamond necklace or a Prada handbag do. Yes, I know those are top notch things, but you get my meaning, a similar gift according to your price range would be just as acceptable. I have a couple of videos that are perfect examples of what can happen on that wonderful holiday morning, when she opens her gift and finds… a need!

We only have major gift giving a couple times a year, so doesn’t the person who cooks, raises your children, cleans your house, washes your clothes, holds down an extra job to pay bills, and generally puts up with you, deserve something she wants, wishes for or desires? Of course she does!

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